I just finished reading Susan Cain’s Quiet: The power of introverts in a world that can’t stop talking, and I have to say that it’s changed my life.
I “knew” I was introverted. I’d seen my results on various Myers-Briggs (and derivative) tests. I knew I liked to be alone and that I felt really awkward in social settings. I knew that while I’m a good trainer, that I always felt exhausted afterward. I just didn’t feel the truth of what being an introvert meant, for me anyway, until I read Cain’s book.
Cain opened my eyes to who and what and introvert is and can be.
When I was a kid, my mom had to stop sending me to my room as a punishment. I liked it too much 🙂 I’d just get a book, or start playing on my own. When I was a kid, I compensated for my introversion by being giggly and obnoxious. Friendships tended to wound rather than comfort.
Now I totally get where I feel my power, why I’m so happy with Phil, and why I’ve been writing since I was seven years old.
Even if you’re not an introvert, if you love someone who is, I’d encourage reading Quiet. It really is an incredible book.
Writing is the ideal calling for an introvert
A couple of articles for you:
Just this past week, Porter Anderson posted on Writer Unboxed about the myth of the lonely writer.
Not that all writers have to be introverts. I’m sure there are many who are not (and I know several of them). I just think that the writing part of the writing life is easier on us. It’s the promotional work that’s going to be the killer 😛
In the past few months, I’ve also started following Space 2 Live, a blog on introversion by Brenda Knowles.
Here’s her lovely video: The space we need.
Are you an introvert? An extrovert? Is your partner the same or the opposite? Do you have introverted children? The dynamics are potentially endless and every relationship is unique.
I’d love to hear from you.